I trimmed some printscreens, and then "painted" one to show what I am looking for. I am using rhuk_milkyway as my template, with a few color numbers changed (transparent is a color setting!), and a little editing on the pictures for the top bar. The actual structure is not changed.
I think I have the settings on the menu correct, and I have activated the ari ext menu in the module section... pictures should tell...
As I am having trouble uploading the pics, I put them on a page at
http://beardrummer.co.cc/menupics.html